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Cohabitation and Buddhist Perspective


Cohabitation in western is not strange, they live apart with their parents when they are eighteen, stand on their feet and face the challenging. Burmese life-style is totally different with westernwes; Burmese usually stay closely with their parents, therefore one family normally has four or five members. Burmese, who have no sexual knowledges and value their virginity, hardly make love before their marriage. Their different life-styles drive them dissimilar approach to cohabitation. Moreover, Burmese believe in Buddhism in which scriptures mentions cohabitation as serious demeritorious actions.

Any women guarded by parents, relative or brothers, etc and married women are to be avoided. If one does relationship with them one commits Kamesumicchacara, sexual violation or committing in adultery. That guilt will pull down to lower hell realms for many years, then female animals, then gay, then women life and eventually one can regains man life. That is what the Buddhist believes; we often converse about the large numbers of female in world wide that indicates the growth of sexual violation or committing in adultery. In this case, Westerners can argue that cohabitation is not sexual violation that is done by dual agreement. According to Buddhism, if partner is under the guard of someone or married, it’s Kamesumic-chcara.

Well, let’s keep aside the consequences of the life after of the bad results of Kamesumicchacara and see in this very existence. Many step-childs with miserable circumstances in the world, some Asian women deliver white child and some black African child, thousand of couples divorce due to adulterous cases in both side of husband and wife, above all, enjoyable families broke into peaces.

We can imagine as well the most harmful and incurable diseases come where from. In this case, I remember a proverb “From a short pleasure comes long repentance”. That’s quite fits to this, though I’m not sure what the composer aim for.

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Above link is Nargis Rescue Recorded photos when i went back to Burma in the middle of May. I delivered many supplies for Nargis victims in small villages.

Under is detail of my journey..... Please enjoy.

Let me share what I experienced when I went back to Burma to deliver collective supplies from Bangkok and some generous devotee from Malaysia, especially Shrileen who found funds and transferred through Western Union.

I got to Yangon on 17^th May. On that early morning I went to many villages in Kwing Kyang Kone, Dala and Kot Hmoe townships which were the most cyclone affected areas in Yangon Division. We collected supplies and funds from various donors especially from Burmese migrant workers in Bangkok and some foreigners I know especially a pious lady from Malaysia; they donated heartily and generously. I appreciate their kindness, compassion and humanitarian spirit for the Nergis victims.

As we promised to pass by our own hands to the victims we led to above areas by renting four buses. It was drizzling on that early morning; buses were waiting in eastern Grate Shwedagon, for supplies were placed in Sasanavepulla Japan Temple. I recorded in video in order to show the donors back to rejoice and to see well how their gifts run. We went out of Yangon through Hling Township, as soon as we got out of it we saw many victims standing beside the road, yes under the rain, begging and appealing for aids. That was the most tragic scene in my life.

We drove as far as we can. Streets were muddy and slippery due to rain and Nargis. Small bridges made by wood are unfit and easily can be broken. We usually got out of the car when car crossed over those bridges. Eventually, we arrived at War Ba Lout Thout Village in Kok Hmoo Township. We couldn't drive anymore from that village because streets and small bridges were totally destroyed, so we hired three small boats to go further where Rescues not reach yet. We got Mel Ya Gone Village after taken three hours boat. Yes, many villagers welcomed us warmly and joyfully and carried supplies to Temple which is the center of refugees.

We were very busy there dividing supplies, offering some cashes to abbot for renovation and giving medical care to injured people who suffered during the Nargis Cyclone. As they don't get medical treatment most of their wounds swelled and emitted horrible smell but thankfully our doctors treated the patients well.

They all villagers were over the moon as they were watched closely by benevolent people from all over the world. Our group was in rushed, for drivers and buses were waiting. We therefore handed over the supplies to abbot who is the head of those areas to deliver on our behalf. All villagers saw off us and stood in the bank till our boats disappeared. When we got back to buses it was 7:30pm. We led to Yangon after giving the boats fares. We all were very tired as we walked and took boats for long hours, on the bus we all remarkably were silent and were sleepy. On that night we got back to Yangon at sharp 10:00 pm. I couldn't sleep well at night though I was tired and exhausted thinking of and reviewing the images of refugees.

I then remember what the Buddha taught in Dhamma "night is too long for the awaken one, a small journey for the exhausted and Samsara for the immoral". Night was too long for me on that night.